E012 – Vishnu Warrier – How your failures can become your biggest strengths!

Shownotes

Introduction

My guest today is Vishnu Warrier. Vishnu is one of India’s top amateur fighters! He’s the Bantamweight Muay Thai Champion at Roar Championship with many accolades to his name at the national and international level! 

Listening to him I realized once again how important it is to give yourself a fighting chance to do what you love. Success does not come easily, everything requires effort, so might as well choose to put in the effort where you can enjoy it!

1. You lose in your mind before you lose in real life
2. No matter how many times you fail, there is no chance till you try again
3. Success does not come easily. Everything requires effort, so choose your effort and enjoy it. 

How did your journey start?

I competed in two striking competitions before I got here. One was a district boxing fight, and the other one was a kickboxing thing. 

It was something that one of my teammates at that time said that you should try competing.

The journey:

I was a very studious child until seventh grade.

I was a small kid, I used to get bullied but I couldn’t answer back

I tried fighting and I used to get beaten up

Jay –  any one moment you remember?

So there were these kids from another school, they came to pick a bone with me 

I went alone, I was very nice about it and I want to speak but turns out that they got people to fight.

And one thing led to another turn to fight. I got beaten the shit out of

I just went home that day, I slept it off.

I wasn’t badly hurt physically, but mentally I was drowning thinking that how could I be so helpless!

Jay’s story:

I remember this one time, somebody was rude to my mom. And I wanted to say something.

And I did say something. In fact, I even pushed him a little bit. 

And that resulted in a fight, which pretty much got us into a police station. Everything was sorted out later 

But I didn’t feel in control of the situation.

Vishnus story continuation:

The problem with me was that I was getting duped a lot.

I was willing to learn anything, anything that anybody was teaching. 

I kept going from one place to another, where I just realized that every place that I bounced to next, I just wasted all my time, the previous place.

And then I ended up going for this one box that, this big boxing competition where my coach at the time, felt it inconvenient to show up. And, I ended up losing to it.

It shattered me. because in my head, I was best, because that’s what these coaching centers teach me, and after getting built up in my head so much, and to go there and lose in a fight where I could not even touch the guy! I don’t think I landed a single punch on him.

I let that go a couple of years down. I went again for another kickboxing fight. But again, it was too inconvenient for my coach to show up to the fight and I, again, ended up getting lost. 

I didn’t cry that day, it felt like a habit that time. 

Jay – It’s interesting that when the same thing happens again, and again, it becomes a kind of proof-like. It’s like, I’m supposed to feel this way. And becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

After all, these losses, and with absolutely no reason to fight, what kept you going?

It was too long to simulate losses when you give up.

The main thing was I knew for a fact that if I would have stopped, I won’t have had respect for myself.

And after a point where I was taking classes, I ended up going to Thailand. I ended up staying there for a month, where I met lots of new people.

I was recommended this place evolution which had legit fighters. 

After coming home I researched about this place, and I was excited to go.

And a couple of sessions down the line, I saw the whole team’s attitude, the head coach’s attitude more than anything else. That was the place to be. And I didn’t look back after that.

Jay:

And I think the single biggest reason that people don’t achieve what they set out to health, whether it’s in martial arts, whether it’s athletics, it’s in their business, and in finances, wealth, the biggest one biggest worry, even in relationships for that matter, or just socializing, why they don’t achieve their goals, is because they’ve never made a decision that they’re going to achieve this no matter what, like, it’s not a decision. It’s like, let me try it out. When you did this, somewhere deep down, you had already made a decision that I am going to do this no matter what. Right? So when you fail, it didn’t matter, because you just used it as Oh, you know what, this is just the beginning. I have the whole world in front of me. You know, there was a decision that you made somewhere deep down, that you read, there was no other option for you. 

Jay – Your failures are your biggest strength 

People can learn from your mistakes and you can provide them the right direction.

You’ve grown to the point where now you’re taking classes there, and how many people do you think to come to that gym and do a few classes? And because they’ve not made that decision that you may they give up? Because they got they get bored. And they don’t want to show up at the gym the next day? Or they feel like oh, it’s just too hard. Maybe it’s not for me, but maybe if they just stuck around. They could have they could accomplish amazing things, extraordinary things.

I  think towards the end is this priority. People have got to prioritize what they want.

What’s your plan for yourself? What is your outcome?

I want to do something that nobody’s done before.

I think that I am on the right path. Because I’m doing what I need to be doing.

Be vocal about your goals

When you say it in front of people, that’s when it becomes real. 

Be best at whatever you do 

why would you want to do something if you’re not going to be the best at it? 

 You gotta make a decision about what you want to do in your life.

A decision is like an incision, you’re cutting off all other possibilities, besides your outcome, besides your goal, and you’re cutting, every other possibility.

And so you work as if that is the only possibility.

There are so many success stories of people who reach the top who had obtained from the bottom right. 

What is your WHY?

I’m scared. 

I am scared every day. I hate being scared. And I don’t want to be scared, I want to do something about it.

Want to do something because you’re scared to do it. that’s a good enough reason.

Every day won’t be a vacation

I think that even if you do what you love, there are going to be days that you wish you want to take it slow or even quit at times. 

Regardless of even though you do end up feeling, you’re doing really nothing, but you’re still pushing forward, you achieve something and you will get it done. 

Because you can do a lot more.